Yes, I'm asking you to do the unheard of and wait to give it up. You need to understand the value in doing this and here's why; if you act on your feelings of affection before you work for them, you get bitter, unripe, fruit. If you work for your feelings of affection before you act on them you get an entire steak dinner for the rest of your life (aka LOVE). Sure within the definition of love there is passion, and chemistry, and even ...sex; however, even with all that, it's not really love until you've put the effort, time, building of trust, and value in your relationship by waiting.
If you never learn to do this, you will never learn the amazing feeling real love. Once you've spent the time, built the trust, learned how to CHOSE to love this person even when you've learned everything wrong with them, than you know the value of real love, and the incredible value of your relationship.
When you "awaken love before the time it pleases" you don't awaken love, you awaken lust. And as passionate and amazing as it may feel, it's not an eternal, committed, and unconditional love. And the wedding is no longer a celebration of how the two of you are about to become on flesh through a life-long, serious, law-binding, public commitment. It's just a show and a dinner for those invited.
I feel like Dr. Laura, "now go do the right thing" ;)
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